Writer’s block! Gah….it’s a b*tch. I get it. So what can you do when you just don’t know what to write, check out this week’s vlog below.
- Are you truly aligned to your content? If not, stop writing about it and write about the thing that lights you up.
- Take a break, move away from desk, get some fresh air.
- Ask the question and listen for the answer.
Sound to simple?
Stop trying to overcomplicate it and get writing. <3
Faith + Action = Miracles
Last night I began working with a woman who had met me just one week before at my London workshop, in tears. She was crying because so much of the content I shared had touched her. Moved her. Shook her. And although, she knew the person she wanted to be and was open to the possibilities of what she could create for her life. Where she was in THAT specific moment, was self-loathing. Hating. Herself for all of the decisions, choices, learned habits that had told her she wasn’t enough.
And it hurt. Her pain hurt her. And her pain hurt me. But in that hurt something opened up. A space for healing. A space for loving. A space for freedom. And she took a step into that space and reached out to me. She had made a decision. The decision she was ready and prepared to invest in herself. And last night we spoke.
And it was true, she really IS ready. And I’m excited to say that she is joining one of my private group coaching programs. Her decision felt EPIC, because I knew that just one week ago how she felt unworthy of so many things. In fact, even on our call she had felt unworthy of so many things. But with just a couple of questions and being OPEN to the process she went from unworthy, to I’m fucking worth it. Why am I sharing this with you?
Well aside from the fact I feel amazing about having the opportunity to walk alongside this magnificent lady whilst she gets to work. Really, I am inspired by her bravery. Her courage. You see it takes courage to say YES to yourself. But you know what takes even more courage. To continue saying YES to yourself. In every moment. Every day. Or at the very least saying YES to yourself more frequently than you are saying no. It takes courage to set the bigger goal. It takes courage to do something you’ve never done before. It takes courage to ask yourself to see something through when you’re track record of completing and ‘achieving’ says something completely different.
It takes courage to want more. It takes courage to BE more. And here’s the thing, no one can give you courage. You have to summon the strength from within and just go for it.
Is this the only way? Hell to no.
But for sure it’s the quickest.
Where can you be a little more courageous today?
I’ve been speaking to a number of potential clients recently, alongside noticing a trend with people who are wrestling with self-sabotage. And if I’m super honest, noticed the same thing in myself yesterday as I hung out with the fam. And not being able to put my finger on why I was feeling a bit funky.
Last night, I stayed up super late and watched The Departed, a violent, intense gangster movie by Martin Scorsese even though I was shattered. Even though I’d watched it before. Even though I could have recorded and watched it this evening. Even though I knew that watching the film would not be good for my chi, I made the decision to stick it out anyway. Why is it when we know what is good for us? What will propel us forward? What will keep us on track to doing the thing we say we’re longing to do? Do we look at the options laid out in front of us and then make a decision based on what we want in the moment. Which in the moment might feel like:
An easy life.
But underneath the surface of these desires, as we make these ‘in the moment’ choices, we are left with the discomfort of an unfulfilled soul. Disconnection with the highest version of ourselves. And a sense of dissatisfaction that the progress and evolution that we yearn for feels unobtainable. Why do we take what feels like the ‘easy’ option in the moment, even though we KNOW we need to act differently to achieve our fullest potential. Fear of the unknown. It’s easier to make a decision based on how we feel in the moment, even if deep down we know that it’s wrong.
Just eat the cheese.
Have another drink.
Say no to investing in yourself.
Stay up too late.
Because the fear of fucking things up, ‘even more’ royally is just too stressful. I’m going to be brutal. You are wasting your time. Which means you’re wasting your life if you are going to continue making decisions in this way. It needs to stop. And it needs to stop now. So, what can you do?
Make decisions based on where you will be when you’re earning £10K a month consistently. When you’re already impacting thousands. When you have your bestselling book out. Act from where you want to be in 12 months time. Allow the highest version of yourself to make your decisions for you. Will that feel scary? Fuck yes. Will you accelerate your growth, by stepping into the person you want to be NOW? Hell to the yes.
Stop making excuses for not showing up as that person now.
So there’s a trend in the coaching world at the moment to bash, financial based marketing statements and I understand why. Many coaches make it sound like they have THE magic formula by just sharing the headline numbers without explaining what goes into to creating that figure. So having received this beautiful testimonial, I want to explain the WHY and the HOW for you to see how far you can run with this…Or of course, tap me up to see if you’d be a good fit for one of my programs.
Step 1: Mindset Work
The first thing we did was spend a full on day together. Going through all the questions that had been raised from Nicola filling out my client questionnaire. Some people leave that day feeling revved up and excited. Other times they leave feeling quite drained, with a low energy, Nicola fell into this camp as we shifted lots of things that she hadn’t even realised were impacting her ability to step up into her fullest potential. Nicola also committed to doing a regular ongoing mindset practice to start her days with a bang.
Step 2: Message
In my opinion, this is the most important part of the puzzle. Being able to communicate how you can transform your ideal client’s life and why it’s important to you is the key to those goosebump moments. Sometimes it takes a bit of digging, tweaking and refining to help you communicate why your service, is your life’s work, or why it’s important to you to facilitate the MASSIVE change you want your client to experience. However, when you get it…just write….it’s magic. 🙂
Find out more about Nicola’s work at www.nicolasnoad.com
Step 3: Strategy
During this session, we clarified her target audience, on and off Facebook. And agreed that it would be a great idea for Nicola to re-introduce herself to my audience in her new role, in order to utilize the know, like and trust factor with people already familiar with her gorgeous smile. Outside of the relative safety of FB she committed to stepping out of her comfort zone and cold calling. The objective was to tap into the corporate market and specifically off people who were going to be selling face to face at exhibitions. The strategy was super simple and involved no expenditure.
Step 4: Action
Nicola, utilized the fact that I was on tap whenever she needed me to ask questions, get a pep talk and talk about service development as she got more engagement with her audience both on and off of Facebook to create hot products and then she sold her services. And most importantly, she showed up adding value and making calls EVERY. SINGLE. DAY even when she didn’t feel like it.
So the question on everyone’s lips I’m sure is, has she only manifested this, this quickly because she’s a sales coach? No! However, if you are working in a very competitive marketplace, it usually takes longer to stand out from the crowd and make a big impact, which is why nailing your message is so important. So what if you are working in a competitive marketplace what can you do?
- Do your mindset work daily, shift the things that are holding you back.
- Make sure your message is unique.
- Do something different.
- Focus on engagement rather than numbers.
- Show up consistently.
- Identify where you can tap into other people’s audiences where you can benefit from the association.
- Don’t just create things that people need, but also what people WANT.
- Use a coach/mastermind to support you when you have a wobble.
- Ask for the sale.
- Keep on going.
If you want to find out more about how I work with my clients and if I can help you. Click this link to book your clarity call. <3
If you desire a to build a business and a life that lights you up, but are yet to manifest that into your reality, I’m willing to bet serious money on the fact you’re not using Pareto’s rule. Never heard of it? You might be more familiar with the more commonly used 80/20 rule?
The rule states 80% of an effect comes from 20% of the input. When it comes to building your business the thing that so many entrepreneurs get wrong is that 80% of their time is focused on the actions and trying to work out the HOW. Whereas any 6-figure plus business owner will tell you, that in order to make any financial leap in your business, it’s not what you do that makes the difference it’s how you feel. Yep. That’s what I said, it’s about cultivating the mindset of a person who is already operating at a higher level, WITHOUT doing double the work. So, whether you’re looking to earn £1K, £2K, £5 or £10K a month and if you’re not doing that yet. Here are 5 mindset blocks you need to bust in order to move up to the next level.
- The fear of not being good enough
Okay, I get it, this isn’t the first time you’ve heard you’re amazing. You are the light and deserve abundance, wealth, ideal clients and the partner of your dreams to be raining down on you. You think positively (some of the time), you affirm, you journal, you might even meditate but still, you’re not feeling good enough.
So, what’s getting in the way?
You still act in a way that shouts from the rooftops, that deep down, you do not believe you’re good enough.
Imagine how differently your life would be if you knew you were good enough. How would you act towards your children? How would you serve your community? How would you show up for the one perfect client who needs to hear your message in your own unique way?
- Fear of visibility
If you are the type of person who has spent a lifetime; playing small for fear of outshining a sibling, being told to “Ssh” by a parent not wanting people to perceive you as a show off, or worrying about being judged for getting something wrong, then sharing your voice with your peers outside of your job may be just as difficult as being seen as the expert, authority or motivator you ache to be.
Stop buying into your own bullshit. Set yourself small challenges that require you to step outside of your comfort zone. Perhaps it involves making three cold calls. Or posting a FB live or setting up your own workshop. Give yourself one new visibility task to undertake every day.
- Fear of not measuring up
The curse of comparisonitus. It is a killer. Instead of sitting at your laptop writing, creating and sharing your own content, you follow all of the people who do anything remotely similar to you and systematically judge yourself either better or worse (usually worse) than everyone on your Facebook and Instagram feed. WTAF?! No wonder you’re not where you want to be right now. You’re so busy scrolling you’re not actually getting anything done.
There are a number of ways you can approach this, but the two most common are to join forces or unfollow. I think joining forces with a person is a great option depending on how triggered you are by them in this moment. If on the scale of one to ten you’re about an eleven, then distancing yourself from daily contact is a much healthier strategy until you are able to work on feeling super confident in your own skin. So, unfollow any and all of the people who trigger you and get on with it.
- Fear of making the wrong move
This presents itself in many forms, but the most common is procrastination. I’m just waiting for my website, my logo, my branding, until the new moon, until Mercury is out of retrograde until I have more time. Yes Beauty, I’ve heard every single excuse under the sun. As you continue to find more and more reasons not to take the next step, this is what’s happening…you are wasting your life!
You are missing out on golden opportunities. You are getting older. Other people are running with different versions of your fantastic idea and you? You are getting more scared and more focused on perfectionism.
Start acting like a real-life business woman and that means making decisions. Once you have made a decision and committed to something, make yourself accountable. Once you have your accountability, break down your tasks, look at them and decide what the 2, maximum 3, priorities you need to tackle in order to bring your commitment to fruition. Then make yourself accountable every day.
- Fear of investing in your business
This is a HUGE one. In the entrepreneurial world there is someone trying to sell you something on every single corner, it’s overwhelming. Do you NEED it? Probably not. What did I just say?! You heard me. Probably not. So why is this on the fears list? Well, most people want to cut the amount of time they spend trying to work it all out by their selves. If you want to grow a business that brings in more than pocket money for you, if you want to scale your business, you will need to invest in something at some point.
Work out what it is you want to do next and invest in line with that.
What are my top 5 things to invest in when you’re looking to make £5K a month consistently?
- Email marketing software.
- A virtual assistant to help you with admin.
- Landing page software so you capture people’s email addresses (nope you don’t need to start with a website).
- A business coach/mastermind, if you need help with accountability and you’re ready to move up to the next level of business.
- Self and business development – learn how to do you and be the best you can in your business.
Don’t be fooled by thinking you’re not doing enough. Yes, taking action is necessary. Yes, you have to be proactive, but more than that you have to act from a place of flow and alignment and BELIEVE that you are good enough, worthy enough and deserving enough BEFORE the action piece will make a difference.
Suzy Ashworth is a mother of three, six figure business owner, TEDx speaker, marketing and messaging coach, who helps creative, heart-centered business owners, understand how alignment can skyrocket their businesses and their lives. Book a call with Suzy to see if she can help you today.
And when I say go outside I don’t just mean go outside, scroll through Facebook and think about how much time you have until you can officially go back to your desk, feeling mildly irritated that even though you’ve been outside just like the post said, that the momentary relief you got has already started to fade. I mean go outside and breathe in the frickin air, like it’s the first breath you have ever taken and wake the fuck up.
Look around you.
This works well if you have the luxury of being in nature: in a wood; by the sea; or in a park. But even if you are in the middle of the city, go outside and look up and be impressed. Be mesmerised. If not by beautiful architecture, look up at that sky. Your sky. That infinite sky.
If you can see a tree, look at the leaves and be impressed by the miracle that is that specific formation of atoms, collectively attaching themselves in a particular way, to create that one of a kind leaf and be mesmerised.
Then take another breath.
Look down at your hands and be fascinated at you. The precise formation of cells that have collectively attached themselves in that unique way to create your hands. It’s bloody amazing. You are bloody amazing.
Stop judging yourself. Stop judging other people. How much more accepting of what is going on around you can you be today? How can you reduce the amount you make yourself or other people wrong? How much more than yesterday can you view whatever situation you’re confronted with, with just a little more love and a lot more acceptance?
Give and receive compliments
Say something nice to someone. It’s easy to roll your eyes when people talk about love in any other context outside of children and romantic relationships; but love is the highest form of energy and communication and being able to both observe it and bring that energy into every conversation you have today is the gateway to having the most beautiful interactions and transactions. The easiest way to do this is to say something nice to someone and notice how many more opportunities you have to receive someone saying something loving to you and receive it, wholeheartedly.
Don’t give yourself too much to do
In a culture where more is more and we measure our ‘success’ by how busy we can claim we are, I’m inviting you to go against the grain. Choose one thing you’re not going to do today and fill that space with something that will bring you joy. It may be something as simple and silly as a three-minute chair dance. Or perhaps you want to go all the way and fill your time with space to think, observe, or even to sleep. The key here is to do less ‘stuff’ or at least do more things that bring you joy.
Actively appreciate in as many moments as you can, just how bloody awesome your life is. How many amazing things you have in your life. Your breath, your body, your ears, your lips, running water, food, a roof over your head, a mobile phone, your desk, your laptop, friends, family …. the list goes on. Appreciate it all and watch how the rest of life unfolds beautifully.
This morning I read an interesting post from a client on success. She talked about the fact that, whilst she didn’t consider herself to be a ‘mover and a shaker’, she was feeling great about the deep satisfaction she was getting from a steady stream of clients that she got to work with in her quiet way.
I loved this post, whilst simultaneously being triggered by it.
It also reminded me of a post from a mentor of mine about two statements Jim Carrey has said.
One being about manifesting 10 million in five years through belief, visualisation and enough right action.
And the second of him saying he wished everyone in the world could be blessed with all of the fame and fortune they desired, so each of us would realise that it is not money and fame that will ever make a person feel truly fulfilled.
I sometimes forget that my mission, whether it comes to birth and business, is the same.
What’s Your Mission?
This is to help women understand their own limitless potential and to provide them with the tools to help them turn their dreams into reality.
I talk a lot about impact.
My own desire is to have a massive impact and help a lot of people understand that they CAN have what they desire.
They DON’T have to wait.
They are SMART ENOUGH, GOOD ENOUGH, WORTHY ENOUGH.
The dream can be a REALITY.
I think that some of the people I reach think that this means everyone needs to want to help 1000’s of people in order for their dream to be deemed worthy enough.
I want to say no.
You are worthy
I want you to know that, even though I have to be mindful to remind myself EVERY. SINGLE. DAY.
I am worthy enough whether I get 10 comments on a post or not.
I am worthy enough whether I never sell another spot on another event or course or not.
I am worthy enough whether I am the only person in the world who will ever read this post or not.
Neither your worth or mine is wrapped up in bank balances of numbers.
My value as a human being was determined the moment I was born.
I am a fucking miracle.
I walk, I talk, I get to choose, see, live, breathe and that is e-fucking-nough.
So if we’re already enough what else is there?
Well, for each and every one of us it’s different.
I know what I see in my groups and communities.
A whole raft of amazing women, sometimes mothers, who are feeling penned in to following the crowd. Doing what’s expected of them. Doing what they think they should do, because over the years the idea of doing what they love, and speaking the truth that comes with listening to your heart, feels wrong.
They feel as though now is not the right time.
Now is the time for the husband or the kids.
Or a sense of guilt, or shame, of letting go of the thing they have worked on for so long to do THE thing that really light’s their fire.
Success isn’t about cash in the bank.
Or numbers of people who like you, love you, or blow smoke up your ass every time you bat an eyelid.
It’s about waking up and smiling.
Feeling excited about the day ahead.
About the unexpected and expected conversations you might have that will make a difference to the right person at exactly the right time.
It’s about feeling life and loving it, more often than just surviving it.
Sleepwalking through it.
Just putting one foot in front of the other.
And for me it’s also about being present….something that I’m working on every single day….I’m shit at being present.
But that too is okay.
So my client is right, success isn’t about how much you’re doing or moving and shaking. Although, it’s completely okay to want to create massive impact if that’s what your heart desires.
It’s about knowing you are good enough right now to speak and live the truth you were born to live.
If this resonates with you and you want help in speaking your truth in a way that can help you live the life you desire, drop me a line to see how I work with my private clients. It’s magic.
Today I want to talk to you about some of the things that I learnt when I went to see Gary Vaynerchuk a couple of weeks ago. I think last week I was talking about Denise Duffield-Thomas, and this week I’m talking about Gary Vaynerchuk. I have been hammered a lot of information in person over the last couple of weeks, and it has been fantastic. I think that when we get the opportunity to go to these types of events, it’s very easy to talk about how busy you are, and how you shouldn’t be taking time out of your day, but actually it’s really refreshing to once again connect with people in real life and to witness people doing their stuff. Even if you never have an aspiration to be standing up on stage and speaking in front of 750 people, watching someone who is able to hold the crowd and be incredibly engaging is very inspiring and provides everybody with a mini-masterclass on how it’s done. Watch my full vlog here.
So you take what you learn, you then put your own little spin on it, and then you take it out into the world. It’s exciting, when I do my talk in November for the Maternity Nests Association, I’m going to be taking all of the best bits that I can recall from the talks that I’ve seen over the last couple of weeks, that have inspired me. Anyway, one of the main things that resonated with me is something that I talk about in The Baby Business School and have been talking about increasingly more with my group clients, or at least when people were replying, this was a really important factor for me. What Gary Vaynerchuk spoke about was the fact that quite often people become sheep far too easily; i.e.
we follow the crowd.
What’s this person doing? What’s the most famous person doing? Everybody does that. Of course, the success of others does leave clues, and if somebody has a proven model, it makes sense to take the best bits from that.
But actually, when it comes to standing out in the crowd and creating a unique position for yourself, if everybody is looking left, you would be doing yourself a huge favour to be looking right. Mm-hmm (affirmative)? You know, all he’s saying here is nothing new, but it’s such a great reminder. What is your unique proposition? You know, I see this a lot with hypnobirthing teachers. So many of you guys who are pre- and postnatal specialists have so many certificates. I always say, “No, no, no, no, no more training. You’ve got enough training.” But actually, for those of you who already have loads of training, use those skills to design unique packages. So you are no longer ‘just’ a hypnobirthing teacher, you are no longer ‘just’ a baby massage instructor. You are the hypno, reiki, nose-blowing, glitter-wearing, whatever, whatever, whatever. You get my point. Use the skills that you have developed over the last year to create something unique, and take that to market.
We all want to stand out.
Usually, people want to do that more quickly than normal business parameters allow. The easiest way to get the quickest results is to create something that doesn’t sound like everybody else’s, which really feels like a different proposition. That doesn’t mean that you should have to go out and learn a whole new load of things. What it means is, look at the things that you are good at, look at the training that you’ve already taken, and then let’s see how you can combine this to create something really, really special and distinctive.
The same goes for your message. Maybe the programme or the service that you’re offering is similar, but the message behind it makes you stand out. I’m working with a lady at the moment in my group coaching programme that has some powerful messaging around nutrition for children. I know that as she begins to unleash this into the world, whilst there will be a large number of people who push back against that message because it is so unique, because she’s going to be going out on a limb, and because she is owning the fact that she is not talking the same conventional wisdom as everybody else, that is going to have massive, massive impact.
So, my challenge for you this week is to invite yourself to have a look at your services. If you’re not getting as much traction as you would like, have a look at your service and see, ‘where can I tweak my message?’ Or, ‘what can I potentially add into this to create a new offering?’ Then send that out to your market. The main thing is, try not to follow the crowd, just do you. I hope you find this a helpful exercise.
Today I want to talk to you about being different. I want to ask the question ‘how comfortable do you feel about not being the same as all of your friends and family?’ How comfortable do you feel around standing out and away from the herd?
Because I want to put it to you that if you have a dream, a burning desire to create something magnificent for you and your family, to have a massive impact on the world, to inspire and motivate people on a big scale to do something different, to feel differently, to act differently, then you have to understand and appreciate that that is a pretty isolating and lonely path. Want to know why? Here is my answer:
Because what you are acknowledging is that you are born to lead rather than follow, rather than being one of many, you want to stand at the front of many people.
To do that powerfully, to show up and share your message in an unfiltered way, to share more of your truth on a daily basis with the people that you want to create and motivate into changing and transforming and living to their fullest potential, you have to be prepared to stand up and be different.
You have to be prepared to stand up and acknowledge and own the change that you want to make, and you have to be prepared to stand up and start acting from the place of somebody who is already leading. So that everything else then begins to fall into step. It is one of the hardest, most terrifying things you will ever have to do in the beginning, but it is the thing that will liberate you from feeling the need to fall in line with other people’s expectations about what is acceptable for you.
You make the rules.
So my challenge for you this week is to see how you can own your difference more powerfully, whether that’s in your messaging, whether that’s in how you’re parenting your children, whether that’s how you are communicating with your partner about the things that you want to achieve and the things that you are intending to do on a daily, weekly, monthly, annual basis. See how you can own that difference more powerfully this week, and let me know how it goes.